How to Stay Sane in World Full of “Perfection”
We all know the feeling… first thing you do when you open your eyes, check your phone. Not even out of bed yet and you want to see what you missed during REM sleep. You’re scrolling Instagram and you see a beautifully arranged, neat and tidy living room… scroll some more and you see #couplegoals, laughing and cooking together … keep scrolling and someone else is cliff diving in Bali, living the dream. Alright so you’ve scrolled for 20 minutes (and now the word scroll sounds funny to me), you finally get out of bed, make a cup of coffee and then your back scrolling. Now you want to see what’s happening on facebook….
I hate to break it to ya but this is NOT good for your health!!! Remember that friend… Health? It’s okay, I forgot about her too so let me say this loudly… IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT!!!! Because honestly, we weren’t taught enough about it growing up. And I’m not talking about what all of our body parts do and what we should be eating … I’m taking about your mind, baby! Now, I’m no health expert but I’m going to let you in on the small changes I have made to keep my family and I sane!
The Brutal Truth
We all care about what other think of us. We can act as though we don’t care but in fact, all we really want is to feel accepted. ENTER Social Media… when we don’t feel loved and accepted in real life, we turn to our virtual friends who will always have our back with a thumbs up, right? Nope! This is still not going to help us love ourselves and be grateful for what we have.
The reality is… It is hard work getting from one smiling picture to the next. Our relationships take effort and social media is a fulltime job. If you are not running an account for business purposes, then I highly recommend tracking your time and making a conscious effort to put your phone away when you don’t need it.
Don’t beat yourself up that your little squares aren’t perfect because… life will only be perfect when you are happy with exactly what you have in every little moment. It’s possible guys! I promise, you can do this!
Try This Instead
Wake & Meditate!!
Don’t even start your day scrolling. Cold Turkey! Turn off your alarm, brew your coffee and get cozy on the living room floor. Cross your legs, sit up straight, close your eyes and just breathe. Don’t think about anything… count your breaths to TEN and every time your mind wanders, start your count from the beginning.
Something else I came across and as contradictory as it sounds, there are apps that can track the amount of time you spend on social media and you can set limits. Give it a shot. I think this, and starting your day a little differently, are two of the easiest ways to get started with limiting the screen time.
For those of you reading this that have mini-humans who watch your every move, get them involved as much as possible to talk about their mental health. Use it as a way to open the discussion about how to nourish their minds instead of them “turning into mush” <- My mom used to say this… now I do 😉 … Try these simple rules: No Phone Zone at the dinner table and Video games on the weekends only. And to get started, I would figure out a designated time to hang out in front of screens like #MondayMovieNight and keep it limited to those times only. Now that I think about it, I guess it’s not a bad idea to get the kids thinking about time management. Score!
By the way, my kiddos are 8 and 5 years old. To date, we have meditated together, practiced yoga together and other fun, fam-jam stuff to keep us away from the screens. We still haven’t mastered consistency though, so remember not to put too much pressure on yourself. One thing at a time!
Moral of the story, BE PRESENT!!!
Ps. If you looking for a good vibe read… Add “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**K” to your library! I promise you won’t regret it!
Share in the comments how you are going to live in the moment.